Ten years ago today, I made her fall for it. I pulled the greatest trick in the world. I got a girl to finally agree to spend the rest of her life with a chump like me. I got her to resign to a life of living with a solitary, emotional, reactionary dude who spends most of his time drawing funny books, writing stories and watching flicks where she has no idea whats going on. I got a girl to agree to listening to music she's never heard and going to places she's probably never end up going to, but now she has to.
And you know what? She still stuck by me. She still loves me and deals with me. And I with her. Oh in the everyday process of staying together you find little things that annoy each other about you. Leaving caps off toothpaste, not lowering the toilet seat, not filling the ice trays, etc. And we've both been through some extreme highs and extreme lows. We've survived living in a hospital for a month while our son who was just born struggled for his life. We are battling autism. We're juggling two, sometimes three jobs and finishing our college careers. We've moved all our stuff hours away from our home, only to realize it wasn't what we thought it was going to be. We've dealth with loss, financial ruin, dissapointments and even friendships that end.
But through it all, we've stuck together. We built our relationship on solid ground. We trust each other, 100%. Its funny, when I worked at adult book stores (some attached to strip clubs), people would ask her why she'd let me do that, and indicated that they'd never trust their man to do that. But she knew me well enough to know that I am not a person that cannot be trusted. There is no jealousy in our relationship. NONE. That, I am thankful for. We don't check each other's phones or email. We don't follow each other around town secretly. We don't call each other names. We don't check up on each other. We live our lives and meet in the middle.
Sometimes its hard, I'll give you that. But its never one of us making it hard for each other. We juggle a lot. And sometimes its hard to have "us" time. But thats the choice we made to be parents. We have no one to babysit or to allow us a chance to get away. We're on our own. And I think deep down, we prefer it that way. I'm always trying to make her happy. Letting her get what she wants, bringing her food, cleaning things extra nice for her to be surprised, writing stories or letters to her, etc. I am not that affectionate a guy. But I am very brand loyal. And I am never going away til the day I don't wake up again. I'm always gonna be Kelly Talley's dude.
While I wanted to celebrate with a big thing, renewing our vows and all that with a major celebration to mark this ten year milestone, it just wasn't meant to be. We don't have much money this week. So I guess we'll just have to spend the day together, with the kids. And really, I am okay with that. As long as we're together, I don't care what we do. I just want to look to my right and see her there.
I love you Kelly. Thanks for the greatest ten years of my life. Thanks for two children and your hard work making a life with me. Here's to 50 more!
Luvs, T
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