Facebook Page, Beatles and More

Hey friends, 

 

Just so people are reminded, I am moving all FB activity to a public page. My old personal profile will maintain no posts or activity beyond this point. This is in an effort to keep me focused on my creating and not the insanity of the back and forth keyboard war that we so often lose ourselves in. Anything personal will likely go into the blog here at my site and any business announcements will be posted on my new FB page here: https://www.facebook.com/AdamTalleyArtistWriterGuy/ I suggest you "LIKE" and "FOLLOW" that page if you want to keep up with me and what I am doing. Or continue to download/stream my IDIOTHEAD MORNING SHOW PODCAST via Itunes or Talkshoe.

2017 will see me releasing probably THREE more books and 2018 I have some big plans for. So there is lots to come from me. I appreciate all the love and support I have got throughout the years and as I kick this car into gear and head for the finishing line in the comics' world, I hope you will help me see this journey to the end and what lies beyond. There is so much to come.

Last night the art gods blessed me with seven new pages and my hand stayed strong throughout! I'm very happy about that. I'm scanning them up today and getting them ready to go. I'm striving hard to push this first erotica book out the door now that I am past the halfway point on Starslam 3. So expect a Kickstarter to begin something later this summer. Starslam 3's Kickstarter will be the fall or early winter I think, if all goes well. And there is a third book of sorts of my art coming from someone else. All exciting things! So much to do...

After last blog's confession I've been getting messages of encouragement and advice and I appreciate all of it. The numbers are shocking, I know. But it certainly isn't a death sentence in my view. Many have beat this demon and I will be no different. I've already begun to do so.

The Beatles SGT PEPPERS came out 50 years ago today. I remember when I first heard that album and how it seemed that all music had changed for me. I realized all the doors that album opened in my listening experience and how it gave birth to progressive rock... a genre many of my favorite bands live in. All beginning right there. Happy birthday, Sgt. Peppers. Long live the memories! 

Tomorrow a new ROGER WATERS album comes out. His first since 1992!!! I'm sure a lot of it is about the current political climate and I cannot wait to dig into it. I'll give a full review soon. 

My girl and I went to the movies the other day and saw SNATCHED. The new Amy Schumer/Goldie Hawn movie. While not the next CITIZEN KANE, I laughed in a few parts. Its worth a watch as a dumb comedy. Go enjoy it. 

 

Next week I'm seeing TOOL live here in Michigan! I'm beyond excited to finally get to see them. Expect pics and a full report... if not some audio/video from the show. Oh yes. 

I suppose that is it. I will get with you all next week sometime about all the progress that has been going on all the things cooking on my stove. Maybe even some progress art pics! We'll see... if you are good! 

Cheers, T

Fuck the Facebookz

I decided to leave the Facebooks for a while. Again. This time I'm gonna work hard to make that stick. Because there's just wayyyyyy too much time wasted on my part reposting memes and getting into political and opinion arguments on art, social issues and other things. I just don't find joy in it so why bother? Such a time suck and stress creator. Its my fault, honestly. I can't trust myself to not plug in. So I gotta make the smart decision and cut it out. Plus side: less fucking ads in the feed and full of what other people like instead of what I WANT to read!

I will keep the page open for certain things like posting there when I have a new blog or online store sale or something to promote. But day to day talkings and postings about thoughts and my day are now exclusive to my TWITTER ACCOUNT. I will likely add an Instagram account to the mix at some point too.

Just policing my activity and wasted efforts/time so I can get down to business and lead a happier life.

If you do like my daily ramblings and want to follow me, my twitter account is here:

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Much love! Be safe and sane,

T

Randomness from my Jelly Hole

Tonight I am lubing up to tackle a bit more writing in my novel about my days as a porn store worker. The idea of picking up a pencil and slinging lead just hasn't appealed to me today and I've been reading a lot. I got the mindset for it and I'm ready to go. Just thought I'd get myself geared up to do the deed, by providing some content to you dear readers of my site. Lets see what random thoughts happen in my head lately. Here's what I got swimming:

Bobby Womack is dead. That sucks. He was one of my favorite soul singers and I got a soul mix in which he is featured heavily. Gonna be hard to watch Jackie Brown again and not get a bit glassy eyed when I hear his beautiful vocals roll through "Across 110th Street." RIP. The dude beat cancer and was struggling with diabetes. Word is he even was getting Alzheimers. But he kept going and recorded a well recieved new album of material in 2012. Way to punch life back in the face Bobby. Definitely will be missed.

The bots had a major wobbler* all day today. He gets difficult to deal with when he does that. However, little baby James is talking up a storm, which is very encouraging. It is quite a weird thing to talk to my son and he talks right back. A new concept for me. I enjoy it.

This week, an artist pal of mine and his wife had a baby. He posted a pic to Facebook and apologized beforehand about posting pics of his kids to the site. I realized then that indeed there had to be people out there that complained about people who post pics of their kids to their wall. THEIR WALL. Or maybe someone gives you shit when you post all advertising about your sales to your wall. Or that you post political rants. Again, ITS YOUR WALL. Like listening to the radio, if you don't like the song, simply switch the channel. I do it all the time. And when I cannot find a song I like, I turn the knob down and listen to my own thoughts. Its great. Which this all lead to me believe that anyone who comments on (in a negative way) or tries to criticize what you post on YOUR WALL is a complete and utter asshole and should die in the center of the sun. The interaction of social media is a triple edged sword, especially for creative types because the distraction leads to unproductive habits. But sometimes its our only way out of our own head or the solitary refinement of our office chairs. To combat this, I have blocked the feeds of about 95% of the people I am friends with on FB. That way, I am not constantly in people's lives and I'm back in my own head. But I did bother to tell my friend to please, post those baby pics and FUCK ANYONE who tries to control what you should do with what is yours.

When I do finish all current projects on my list: Anna 2, Starslam/Erotica book kickstarter, Mayhem 1 redo, Mayhem 4, Porn Store book, Short story book, I am going to take a looooooong vacation! Or not. Because reading my posts from one year ago this month, I was talking about taking a four month sabbatical off from all artworking and creating. This stuff cannot be put on a shelf for me. And the daily waits around the kids are endlessly frustrating for me. But at least I'm being paid for the work I do... oh wait... three clients owe me money and keep dodging me. Time to start putting on the deep pressure!

Well thats it. Back to work. Thanks for coming back!

Cheers, T**

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*My word for "major fucking freakout." Its derived from an English word for the same meaning. It is yet another example of me wanting to incorporate more British slang into my yankee world.
**See? "Cheers." Even more of British slang. I should just move there and get it over with.

The Internet and Who Turns Me On

My impression of the internet:

"OH MY GOD! (Insert celebrity name here) has been cast in a movie that I potentially want to (and will anyway) see. And I don't like the choice (even though I haven't seen the flick, and will anyway even just to fill my hate tank) and I am boycotting it (no I won't. I'll still go see it and judge it accordingly. But if it ends up good, then I will sing its praises and judge those who naysayed it before and after the fact)."

"OH MY GOD! I HATE (insert commercial, band, singer, TV show, sport, sport team here) AND EVERYONE THAT LIKES THIS SHOULD DIE!"

"OH MY GOD! WHAT (policitican here) DID IS HORRIBLE! WORSE THAN HITLER! I HOPE THEY GET RAPED BY GODZILLA'S FIST!"

"OH MY GOD! (Insert name of person they randomly ran into and pissed them off for a second during their day and they will likely never see them again. But still felt the need to come onto social media to rant and rave about this person to "friends" and strangers) pissed me off today! I hate everything! FML (abbreviation for "fuck my life," which is used entirely too much. From simply dropping your pastry on the floor to a full blown car breakdown on a freeway).

"OMG! I HATE (insert celebrity name and thier doings here. Even though this person ranting will never meet said celebrity, nor will this celebrity and their doings while on Earth will not effect this person and their own back porch in the slightest possible way. BUT they still feel the need to put in their two cents on what they think about them to the world... because they can)."

"I HATE"

"I HATE"

"I HATE!!!!!!!!"

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You know who turns me on? People who post things they like. Even if I don't agree with them (or what they like isn't my cup of tea), I just dig that they are passionate about something, and are willing to share it.

You know who I enjoy? People who created something, and are telling the world about it.

You know who I love to read about? People who don't just post negative ALL... THE.... TIME.

The world is farrrrr too negative 100% of the time. I get scared when people talk about the idea that guns should be legal across the board. Because with as random and mad as people get at strangers, I'd hate to think of how many murders would happen in one day. And believe me, I'm counting myself in that too. There are many times in traffic where I am so mad at a complete stranger that I could picture myself shooting their tires out, just because I could... if I could. So I don't trust myself!

The human race cannot be trusted. We cannot take care of each other. And we focus on things that are not important. Rant and raves about entertainment and pop culture. Things beyond our control. People who have their own lives in a far away place and do not effect you or your loved ones AT ALL.

It just amazes me the wasted time and energy on these things, when they could easily be ignored as if it were a fallen stick on the side of your path in the woods. A stick that is insignificant and looks like every other one around it. Rather, spend that time and energy CREATING. Drawing. Painting. Making Music. Dancing. Quilting. Crocheting. Reading. Learning. Coloring. Sewing. Writing. Playing. Making memories. Travelling. Seeing things you've never seen. Talking with people you never talked to before. Trying a new food or drink. LIVING LIFE.

What do I love? When I find someone in a creative field of some sort and I try to look them up and they are not on social media. Or if they are, they are only promotional posts or sales posts. I hunger to be like them because I know they are off living their lives and creating in the process. And soon I will see what they are working on, when its ready. they don't have to verbally jerk off everyday. They just live. I wish I could be that way too. 

One of my favorite Pink Floyd lyrics: "The paper holds their folded faces to the floor and every day the paperboy brings more." Seems every day I wake up, there's some "big news" that everyone is ranting about. Everyone HAS to have an opinion on this or that. Everyone has to beat the other person to the joke. Everyone has to see what everyone is saying about it. Everyone has an idea about what would work and not work in every situation, every TV show, every movie, etc. It gets EXHAUSTING.

You know what turns me on? People who DON'T KNOW. Or better yet, don't give a fuck. And not in your face about not giving a fuck, but just not giving a fuck. Just focused on their own plate. Their own back porch. They ignore the fallen sticks outside their path. And I fear that we are raising a generation of kids who are very disconnected. They don't know how to play outside anymore. They can't talk to each other and if they do, its through social media and only about things they hate. And I lump myself in there too. I am far from perfect at these things. But I have got better. I understand fighting on a facebook thread about a political arguement is not going to change the mind of the ignorant. All I can do is post news, inform and make my voice heard at the booth and hopefully keep people awake and aware of what is going on around them. To keep them unsedated.

I want to keep telling people about the cool things going on. A great song that they've never heard. A cool thing that is coming. People doing great things. I share it when I see it. You dig through the mud and hate to find those shiny diamonds and you share them. The people who dig with me are the ones who turn me on. We rock the journey.

I have filtered lots of people out of my life who were main offenders of these things I mention. And I continue to do so. I continue to wrestle with social media and swear I will quit it over and over. But when I interact with my fellow diamond diggers, I forget the people that only focus on the anger and it makes it worth it. Plus, I need it as a "tool" for my work. I deal with it, essentially. But when I find those with me on the journey, it makes it all go away. So cheers to those who are the diggers and not the slingers.

Just a thought for your day as you interact. So off you go into the world. Do you keep focusing on the things wrong with your little world, or do you start digging with us? You are invited. Because while you are ranting about things that don't matter at all, people are beating you to the punch and you'll always be running to catch up and bitter that you didn't make it. You never flew. You just got stuck in the mud... Like a stick. Forgettable. Insignificant and in the way of someone else's path.

Keep searching. \m/ (and I say all of this with peace and love, peace and love)

T

C'mon, Get Happy

--> Every day on social media all I seem to read about are things people are encountering that makes them angry. Its such a relief when I read someone posting something about LIKING something, or having a good day. I decided I wanted to join in. I wanted to write a list of 100 things that make me happy. You should too! Here we go:

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My cats doing funny things

Making a friend laugh

Having a great conversation about movies, music or comics

Being deep into a book, that I don’t want to put it down

Historical or musical documentaries

Going shopping for records

Taking in the general vibe of a comic show

Going to a concert

Cooking a big meal and it turns out great

Learning something I never knew

Dissecting an album that I end up loving

A cat’s purr

Feeling creative and having a productive night

Getting lots of minor things off my TO DO list done

Watching a good and funny horror flick

Watching a “cool moment” happen in a pop culture show or movie

Singing along to a song in my car alone

Hearing of a friend’s inspiration or success

Seeing a pretty sky with intricate colors

My wife making me laugh

The kids making progress

Trying on new clothes and they fit and look great

Sitting in a hot tub at the perfect temp

Drinking a well mixed alcoholic beverage

A great fruit smoothie

A bowl of apple slices

A good burger

Online browsing through wiki or random sites

Putting pins on Google Earth of places I want to visit

Going to a museum

Daydreaming about the future

Watching a movie in bed with the wife

Watching Trek while drawing

Realizing that everyone has erotic fantasies and are open minded to them

Finding someone that is kind and polite in every day life

Incense

The smell of an old comic or vinyl record

Getting an unexpected payment

A nice note of praise on deviantart for something I did

Melting snow and the sun shining outside

A good, close football game

Warm socks, fuzzy bathrobe and comfy house pants

Finding an intact toy or game from my childhood at a con or antique store

People that care for others and expect nothing in return

Realizing how much you mean to someone

Trying out a new recipe and not sure if its going to work, then it does

Hot coffee and cocoa

The great transfer on a Blu-ray disc

The clear and deep warm sound of a vinyl record

Meeting people that are comfortable with their personality and body

Getting a good deep hug

Taking good photos and sharking them

Finding a rare, funny photo and making it my profile pic

Listening to an old skit tape I did with Shane

Writing a song and it flows well

Sitting on the pot reading an old magazine I’ve read a million times

Planning a trip or vacation

Trying a new exotic alcoholic beverage

Telling old stories and making others laugh

A cool, well made action figure in the box

Playing old NES/SNES games

Figuring out how to play a song I love accurately

Watching the kids have fun and their reactions to things in the world

Watching the tide on a beach

Having a drawing come out better than you expected

Holding a finished book in your hand, fresh from the printer

Watching someone buy your work and walk away happy

Hearing from that same someone later after they read your book and dug it

Watching fish swim

Watching an old favorite movie

Listening to a movie score, remembering the moments of the movie in your head

Trying out a new dish or restaurant

Cleaning the house and enjoying the hard work and good smells

Doing the deep cleaning/organizing that no one else thinks to do

Sexual intercourse with the wife

Playing a good game with friends

Discovering someone you idolize is coming out with something new

A fast internet connection

Putting on fresh socks

Hand lotion and its various smells

The smell pipe tobacco in a tobacco shop

Enjoying a nice cigar and a stiff drink

Hearing a funny story from a friend

Thinking back to a fun time in my past

That knowing look of comedy between the wife and I

Hearing bots repeat a big word back to me

Getting a call from someone I am missing

Getting a new Horrorhound magazine

Stocking up on art supplies

Being ahead in my work load

Getting offered a new commission out of the blue

Being asked to join an art project

Being on a podcast with friends

Playing the guitar or drums

Going to the zoo

Going to pet stores that have tons of fish tanks

Learning a new skill and being good at it at the start

Enjoying a good Science Fiction story

Enjoying a quiet drive or late night alone so I can work in peace

A cold soda in the morning

Snowy Days

Welcome back friends.

Well, Christmas is fast approaching and the snow is falling hard. Supposed to get up to 6 inches of it today. Here's a look outside my office window:

You can't tell so much here but its snowing hard. Its going even worse as I type this. I like snow during Christmas time. The roads suck, but it helps when you don't have to go out as much. The wife's work is less than 2 miles away, so thats great. We both did some early Xmas shopping yesterday for each other's wants. She got rings, natch, and I got vinyl (equally, natch). I picked up some colored vinyl exclusive Nirvana, Ghost BC discs and a dollar bin soundtrack to Xanadu. I got about 50 pices of vinyl now and am now ready to pull the trigger on getting a turntable. I'm looking at a couple that THE RECORD LOUNGE in East Lansing has. I'll likely get it after the 20th for Xmas. We got the kids some presents as well. Just have to wait for them to sleep so we can wrap them.

I've been watching a lot of punk documentaries and flicks online and have made a list of some very basic bands (punk and not) that I have never really given the full examination to. Bands like Jesus & Mary Chain, Echo and the Bunnymen, Capt. Beefhart, Black Flag, Fugazi, The Cramps, The Smiths, The Specials, Misfits, Rollins Band, Public Image Ltd and more. Some I've only heard a few songs from so I am trying to give all their albums a nice listen. Its nice to get my head back into music so deep. Its like coming home. Ah, Vinyl!

I've mostly been away from FB except once a day, except this last week, some dude was trying to fight with me about how I chose to sell my AP cards. Many of my fellow artist buddies came to my "defense" but it basically fell on deaf ears. After a while, I let it go and its back to normal. I think the internet has taught all of us to sort of disconnect and not treat the other people on it like humans. We keep ourselves amused to death and sedated with indifference. For example, this new school shooting in Denver. I was outraged as many were. Being a parent, I'm scared to send my kids to school. You NEVER know whats going on there. I recently found out someone I personally know brought a gun to school and shot a kid. It was a long time ago and they've changed obviously, but still its very sobering to realize how real it is and how close it can be, as well as random. But the jokes on FB and Twitter yesterday about it just sickened me to the point I had to just stay offline all day. I buried my nose in a book. Neil Peart's "Ghost Rider," which I finished last night BTW. It just felt good to get away from everything and everyone. I think all of us should try that once in a while. Take a vacation from your routine and do something just for yourself.

The holidays are a happy and tough time for everyone, myself included. I have lots of bad memories and celebrations related to this time. I cover them over with new memories but sometimes no matter how much you run from your past, it catches up to you. Its not done messing with your head. I distract myself with work, podcasts, music and other things. Nothing warms the heart more than a good Christmas classic movie. Its all about creating a happy environment around you with people you love.

I guess I'm saying that all of us could use a bit of a vacation from the beautiful distractions and the fighting with strangers. Spend time reconnecting in person with family and friends. Find and make love. Make memories. Eat hearty and find joy. Do it now before you fully train youself and the next generation to disconnect fully and a thing such as basic human interaction is a lost art. Forget the stupid fights of if an imaginary Santa should be black or white, or if you get mad if someone says "Happy Holidays" instead of "Christmas." Its all bullshit to distract you from your path. Keep your focus. Cultivate happiness. Wake up from your sedation and enjoy the days you have and the friends/family that you have. Cause one day it will end and all you will have is the memories. Live it now. Turn off the phone and the computer and live.

But please, come back and check my blog and my podcasts! ;)

Anyway, deep thoughts over. Just want to say thanks for continuing to read my stuff here and all of you stay safe out there!

Cheers, T

Revolutions, Revelations and Rumors

Hey everyone! thanks for coming back.

Well, I've been off FB for a week and a half now and I gotta say, I'm feeling a lot better. I am not wasting as much time on nonsense nor filling myself up with everyone elses hate and sadness. I sometimes cannot help but be filled with the knowledge that so and so I know is hurting and I feel for them type of stuff. Usually when I am sad, I don't post about it on Twitter or FB. Sometimes I'll write a blog here, but most of the time now, I save it for my personal journals, sketchbook and poem writing books. I have quite a few....

I usually check into FB once a day to check any email or correspondence from a few key art groups I am a part of. And if I post a blog or new Starslam strip, I go on there to plug it. But beyond that, not much else. And I am enjoying the disconnect. I highly recommend it. I even took it off of my bookmarks toolbar and deleted the app on my phone. The distraction is gone!

I wish I could say that it translated into more production. This week has been a crazy one. We're getting Scotty adjusted to his new meds, which he's taking on quite well! The baby is teething and moody. I've had some stomach issues, a minor virus. The wife is constantly working in anticipation for the holiday season. My modem went out and I had to wrestle with Comcast for an entire day about it (some guy there just added me to some new exclusive package that included a land line phone... as if I EVER needed that! So I had to try to get all that stopped, juggle the kids and get a new modem from the local store. Then I had to set it up, reset up everything in the house that works with it... it was a pain in the ass!). Its been a hectic week. So I've only done some commission stuff here and there. No Mayhem pages beyond the three I got rolling. I needed to finish them up soon. Not trying to rush it but I want to make room for the big project to come. Plus I gotta get rolling on coloring new StarSlam pages. Lots to juggle, time running low... I need a couple solid days of nothing but production. Maybe get my head in the game today to distract me.

Distract me from what? I got dental surgery tomorrow. Finally! I'm getting an upper wisdom tooth pulled. Dentists scare me half to death and tomorrow morning's activities to come have been on my mind all week. I'm nervous, but anxious to get it done and over with. It has to be done, before it gets any worse. I am just hoping it all goes smoothly and they don't have to break out the band saw to get that tooth out of my skull. I have a horriblel gag reflex so I am worried about blood or anything else. I will not look at any instruments when going in the room or else I will pass out. My only hope at this point is that they will drug me up good and I won't care. I wish I could go in drunk, because then I wouldn't care at all. Maybe some Joker style laughing gas to soothe me as I go in. I don't know, but I know I will survive it fine. Its just nerves at this point. No worries.

I picked up a couple BluRay sets this week. I got the Man of Steel book version from Target. Also I found the Indiana Jones BR set for 1/2 off at FYE, priced that way by mistake. I was very excited. See, I love the thrill of the hunt in these brick and mortor stores! I also got the new Retro Gamer and Horrorhound Magazine, the only magazines I still (and can) buy!

Hey folks! Holiday season is coming! Are you in the market for some sketch cards? I got Artist Proofs available!!

Right now I got Civil War (4), Sherlock Holmes (4), War of the Worlds (2), and the upcoming Leaf Sports "Best of Football" (40). Customize the card with whoever you want on it and act quick! Each card I'm asking $20 each for. You get a full pencil, ink and copic marker colored drawing of who/whatver you want on the card! The NFL cards are perfect for the sports fan in your life. Very timely, with this season going and all that! EMAIL ME HERE if interested. If you buy more than one, I will cut you a deal. Free shipping in the USA.

I suppose thats all I got to plug for now. Everyone take care this weekend and please, make some plans to get with family over the holiday season. Mend some fences and bridges. Go see people you care about. Thats what the holidays are for.

Cheers, T

The Social Media Dilemna (AGAIN)

I swear, if I didn't need things like Twitter and Facebook for business purposes, I'd sooooo quit them right the fuck now. They cause more headaches for me than anything else. And its not just the people, its myself. I cannot control myself. I have quit playing FB games over three years ago and I am proud of myself that I could do that disconnection. However I still cannot quit the site itself. Because there are various business groups I am a part of and there are a couple key people in my life who only communicate to me via their FB messages. I don't want to disconnect from them. I value them and the connection to them. The artist world is so lonely sometimes that I need that inspiration and connection that they provide me. Plus we clue each other in on tips, tricks, work leads and more. So I am stuck with it whether I like it or not.

I use social media to connect and to promote my work and sales of my work. Its an essential tool. BUT-in doing this, I don't want to be percieved as a "spammer," only posting things related to me, my work, my sales, etc. No one wants that. Your "personality" must shine a bit as well. This makes you and your brand, a bit more attractive to someone perhaps on the fence about your work. It is a tool that you use to promote YOURSELF and your WORK.

Now, in the past, I've got into heated posting and discussions about what I feel are the injustices of the world. But I've learned that this only leads to petty fighting in the comments feed. I don't want fighting. I just want to come on, state my thing and be done. If people want to fight, go elsewhere. I am not interested in seeing it. We're not going to convince each other. So I've tried to stop posting political rants, and instead post celebretory things about politics. Every so often. (and its rare that I can even celebrate positive things that happen in politics!) For example, last night I posted the good news about Gay Marriage passing in the House of Illinois. Lots of my friends and family are from that state and I thought it would be good to support them and their motherland by giving a social pat on the back. No problem in my eyes. I did not try to fight with anyone. Just came on and said my thing.

I think thats what everyone does with social media outlets. They use it to inform, entertain, rant, etc. And thats their choice. And its OUR choice to ignore or listen to them. I have "friends" in my lists who keep posting the most insane political rants that are full of misinformed nonsense. Do I say anything to them? No. They won't listen. They just want to rant to rant. So to fix that (and my sanity), I block their feed in my newsfeed. They can say what they want to those who want to hear it and I am none-the-wiser. I don't need to fix them. I don't need to "win them over." Just let them be.

It amazes me the amount of times I will post something I think is completely innocent a comment on something so small or insignificant and how people will start trying to fight with me on the comment. I didn't welcome a fight. I am not interested in fighting about anything. I say if you don't agree with me, just take a note that I post things you don't like, block my feed, do whatever you gotta do to keep your happiness. But coming on and starting shit with me? Why? What would be the point of that? Everyone has to be "right." I don't get that. I see posts daily that make me cringe for whatever reason. And not once do I ever post after them saying "No, you are wrong because of such and such." I did in the past and I felt like a big shit-smelling dickhead for doing it. It goes nowhere and only serves to create friction where I don't desire it. I'm always checking myself on that. I'm fighting against the mentality of the social media fight.

Case in point: Yesterday, I posted a cool link I found about how some bands from the 70's have members who are pedophiles, wife beaters and other such things. No one is perfect, but two things are a bit extreme. A "friend" comes on and starts berating me for posting it and challenging me to list one of my favorite bands not on the list. I knew what he was doing immediately. No matter who I posted, he woulda looked them up and tried to toss something at me saying how horrible they are and my "arguement (BTW, I wasn't arguing, but reposting a FACT about a couple bands)" wasn't valid. He wanted to pick a fight with me for some reason, and I completely wasn't interested in it. I shunned it. I had better things to be doing. I'm trying to look up reference for a new page of artwork. I shouldn't have been on FB in the first place. So I posted that I Wasn't playing the game of fighting. And he posts some sort of snide comment that since I opted not to play, I had "lost." Lost what? I wasn't interested in playing dude. I didn't want to fight or win or lose anything. Where did I state that I wanted to? And moreover, what kind of "friend" wants to argue and start shit with you? See, if someone posts something that I don't agree with, especially something as minor as a musical or movie preference, I just ignore it. Cause tastes and reasons for tastes is an individual thing. If someone loves country music and I hate it, but they are posting links saying "I love this song or that song" I don't want to go onto their comments and give them shit for thier choices. But people do. People love to fuck with your day. Why? Whats the point? There is none. Not at all. But people looooove to pick a fight and be right. Over MUSICAL TASTES!!!!! Its silly to me. So silly.

Also this week, a person tried to pull me into what is by my definition, an internal, personal family fight and I am to "choose a side." Well sorry. I am not going to turn my back on a friend. Nor is it my fight. I don't want to be involved. You got something to fight about with them, fight with THEM. Not me. Leave me out of it. I got enough problems on my plate than to be taking on yours. Good luck to you, because its quite a mess.

But maybe the problem isn't someone walking around FB waiting to pick on someone's feed and start shit with them. Maybe its with me. I shouldn't have been posting (or reposting in this case) my opinion on something musical. Maybe I'm the asshole for stating why I don't like a couple bands because the one member raped a 14 year old and beat their two wives. I posted that to inform those who might not know. There's a lot of younger folks on FB who might read it and be informed about it. My pal Andy once put social media as "People looking for these virtual high-fives," and he's right. We all are posting cool things to get on with others. And its the assholes who come in and shit on it. And we call them "friends." Maybe I'm the asshole for continuing to try to be cool about it. Maybe I'm the asshole for caring so much to even write a long blog about it and wrestle with it in my head. Maybe I'm the asshole for worrying too much about hurting others even in such a minor thing as this. But I do because the solitary life of the artist means that whenever we reach out for that "virtual high-five" is sometimes our only outlet into the world beyond our art table. My kids are too young and not much company. I cannot teach them these things yet. My wife is in the other room watching TWILIGHT and I am not into it. But I don't want to shit on what she likes. Because you know what that would make me? An asshole. And the world has enough of those. And I don't want to be an asshole to those I care enough to call "friends." I know sometimes I have been in the past and I don't feel good about it. And I am trying to keep changing that. I'm wrapping my head around the social change we all are enduring. I am just thankful that I am not more popular than I am right now because some of my pals that are, I see the arguements in their feed and man it would make my head spin. I guess I care too much about people to ignore fighting and suffering. Again, my fault. I'm the asshole who cares too much.

Like I said before, if I didn't need things like FB for business and some personal reasons, I'd just leave it. And at times, I really weigh whether I should. It distracts me so much that I sometimes just keep going back to it. I need to cut ties. (if only I didn't need it so bad) I would even pride myself that I made the cut. I am sure others would be envious of me that I did make the cut. I am envious of those who say they don't have a FB. I love it, in fact. I suppose I must control myself more, because it starts with me. I just don't like myself on social media. I hate it. I've lost good friends over FB messages. People have spied on me using it. the harm is starting to deeply outweigh the good. I'd rather make the break and use more time on production. Getting MYSELF right. Getting MY WORK right. and stop the useless arguements. It starts within us. Until the petty things become beneath us. Maybe someday I will have the balls, or the popularity clout to be able to make the break and let go of the fear that the sales of my work would suffer. And my "friends" will always know how to get ahold of me through alternative and much more preferable means.

If I ever wronged you on any social media, no matter how minor the statement, I apologize. I never want to hurt anyone. I don't want to be another asshole. I just want to be me. I'll slap you that virtual high five, buddy. And I promise not to dog you on your choices. Keep informing me. Keep entertaining me. Keep in touch with me. Thats what it should be about.

T